WHEN YOU ARE TRYING to get pregnant there is a lot of waiting.
- Waiting until you ovulate
- Waiting until our can take a pregnancy test
- Waiting for you to miss your period
- Waiting to see those 2 pink lines
- Waiting to let your family and friends just in case you miscarry or something horrible goes wrong
- Waiting for the 2nd trimester ultrasound to see if baby is healthy
- Waiting to know the gender
- Then of course waiting for baby to be finally born
There is so much anticipation and excitement but also a nervousness about building up too much hope.
Miscarriages are actually very common.
Sometimes women miscarry without even being aware that they were pregnant.
Sometimes you might have a heavier period not knowing that it was a miscarriage.
Early on in your pregnancy is a volatile time.
The environment needs to ideal to have a successful pregnancy and also the developmental process of the fetus. The body has
Even at 3-4 weeks your “baby” is only a cluster of cells that are the size a poppy or sesame seed!
A miscarriage or spontaneous abortion is the unintentional loss of a fetus before the 20th week of pregnancy. After the 20th week, a lost pregnancy is called a stillbirth.
According to Medline, around half of all fertilized eggs die and spontaneously abort sometimes before the woman knows she is pregnant. Among women who know they are pregnant, 15-20% will have a miscarriage!
Most miscarriages occur during the first 7 weeks of pregnancy. The rate of miscarriage drops after the baby’s heartbeat is detected.
There are several reasons for miscarriages, the most common being a chromosomal error in the DNA that is not necessarily related to the health OR genes of mom and dad. Creating a viable baby is a huge physiological undertaking that requires lot of energy and nutrients from mummy.
So as hard as a miscarriage is to experience, it’s not something you necessarily have to fear for following pregnancies.
That being said, the other reasons for spontaneous abortions include :
- Drug and alcohol abuse
- Exposure to environmental toxins
- Hormone problems
- Physical problems with the mother’s reproductive organs
- Problem with the body’s immune response
- Serious body-wide diseases in the mother (such as uncontrolled diabetes)
These unhealthy practices are mostly controllable and should be address before mummy and daddy decide to have a baby. However, one uncontrollable aspect to fertility that hasn’t been mentioned yet it AGE.
How old is too old?
There is an increased risk of miscarriage in women over 30 years of age and becomes an even greater risk between 35 and 40, and is highest after 40 years old.
This is often the BIG ELEPHANT IN THE ROOM when it comes to women wanting to:
- find a serious boyfriend
- get engaged
- get married
- start trying
Age. It’s a ticking time-bomb for any single lady (or person in a stagnant relationship) who wants to have a traditional family.
But lucky for us gals, it is completely normal to have a non-traditional family. And it’s much easier for a female (regardless of it they are in a male-female relationship, single or same-sex relationship) versus a single or homosexual man.
You don’t need to “find someone” to settle down with to start a family. You don’t need to “settle” if you aren’t in a mutually respectful and loving relationship.
There’s lots of waiting once you are pregnant, but you don’t need to wait in order to start trying!